Tag: #gritandgrace

  • Scarlett O’Hara, Southern Belle & Modern Woman

    Scarlett O’Hara, Southern Belle & Modern Woman

    Scarlett O’Hara, we all know her and love her.

    She’s the green-eyed Southern belle full of grit and grace, and who only has eyes for Ashley Wilkes and her beloved Tara.

    O’Hara is one of the most iconic female fictional characters of all time and is the main protagonist in Margaret Mitchell’s 1936 novel Gone With The Wind. The lovely Vivien Leigh portrays her character in the 1939 film adaptation of the novel.

    Scarlett O'Hara

    As the oldest living child of Gerald and Ellen O Hara, Scarlett learned how to take her life by the reigns. Initially, a vain, snobbish, and spoiled woman, Scarlett’s character grows through the trials and tribulations that life puts her through and has her heart deeply rooted in her hometown, Tara, her birthplace.

    “There was nothing else she did have, nothing but this red land, this land she had been willing to throw away like a torn handkerchief only a few minutes before. Now, it was dear to her again, and she wondered dully what madness had possessed her to hold it so lightly.”

    -Scarlett O’Hara

    Many people are familiar with Gone With The Wind, the film adaptation. In many ways, O’Hara symbolizes the stereotypical Old South. However, she also very much represents the modern woman. Still, in the original text, Margaret Mitchell creates a character within Scarlett full of gumption and ambition.

    (Katie) Scarlett O’Hara Hamilton Kennedy Butler was 16 when she first got married and had three children with three different husbands—something that Hollywood scrapped from the film because of the way society would judge her.

    “Marriage, fun? Fiddle-dee-dee. Fun for men, you mean.”

    -Scarlett O’Hara

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    O’Hara started her own business, drove her own buggy, and always found a way to rise above the challenges she faced during a very turbulent time in American history in the south.

    For women in 2022, this doesn’t seem like that big of a deal, but in the 1860s, this was a huge deal! Keep in mind that Margaret Mitchell wrote this novel in 1936, only 16 years after women were given the right to vote.

    Margaret Mitchell also won a Pulitzer Prize for Gone With The Wind in 1937, and rightfully so! However, the first Pulitzer Prize given to a woman was in 1921, so again, this is all happening during pivotal moments in women’s rights history.

    It is all too fitting that the fictional character that would best represent women’s strength and capability would be Scarlett O’Hara. Mitchell’s novel was released during the height of the Great Depression, a time in history when women needed to find work and with a sense of urgency as thousands of men who were once family breadwinners lost their jobs or were called off to war.

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    Society and the federal government placed greater value on women’s roles during the Depression. Women actively participated in growing bureaucracies and held leadership positions at the highest levels of government. From managing the home to organizing protests, women worked tirelessly throughout the Depression to ensure daily life continued, and Americans received their fair share.

    Women of the Great Depression could relate to Scarlett and her strength as she did whatever it took to support and provide for her family. From farming to making a dress out of curtains, she was determined to succeed, and succeed, she did.

    American women, all women, have always fought for their place throughout history. A woman’s journey to social justice has been, and is, quite different than their counterpart. Equity, access, participation, and rights have not come easily and there are countless women to thank throughout history for their grit and gumption to stand for what’s right.

    The fictional character of Scarlett O’Hara is one representation of how a female role can exemplify the tenacity needed at that time for survival. That same tenacity is still needed as we continue to make strides to break through glass ceilings, still weighted by a dark history and social injustice.

    “As God is my witness, as God is my witness, they are not going to lick me. I’m going to live through this, and when it’s all over, I’ll never be hungry again. No, nor any of my folk. If I have to lie, steal, cheat, or kill, as God is my witness, I’ll never be hungry again.”

    -Scarlett O’Hara

    "As God as my Witness"

    After the war, most women returned home as they were let go from their jobs. Their jobs, again, belonged to men. However, there were lasting effects. Women had proven that they could do these jobs exceptionally well, so, within a few decades, women in the workforce became a common sight.

    An immediate effect of this time in history is often overlooked: these women had saved much of their wages since there was little to buy during the war. This money helped serve as a down payment for a new home and helped launch the prosperity of the 1950s. Translation: Women helped purchase their family homes, during the era where most folks perceived women as Stepford wives who vacuumed in high heels.

    “Great balls of fire. Don’t bother me anymore, and don’t call me sugar.”

    -Scarlett O’Hara

    Many women find Scarlett O’Hara, at best irritating and at worst, despicable. After all, many believe Miss Scarlett to be a character who embodies all of the negative stereotypes attributed to women throughout history.

    Is she selfish, shallow, dishonest, manipulative, and amoral? Sure, sometimes. Even Margaret Mitchell, who did not much care for the character she created, often made disparaging remarks about Scarlett. Mitchell claimed that she set out to write about Melanie as the protagonist (can you imagine) and that Scarlett just took over the story. My response to this is, well, of course, she did!

    “Scarlett: Sir, you are no gentleman.

    Rhett Butler: And you, Miss, are no lady.”

    Scarlett O’Hara’s character is multidimensional and complex at best, but she is strong in every sense of the word. Her character demands attention, and it is this character that unintentionally sets a standard for women that they can overcome obstacles and accomplish their goals. She teaches other lessons of importance throughout her character development, such as your “dream man” might not be the right person for you. Be true to your friends, and in the classic curtain scene that we all know and love.. here’s the lesson, things are not always what they seem.

    Gorgeous green velvet dress? Or the living room curtains? Don’t judge others by their appearances. Don’t judge, period. The other lesson from those curtains: use what you have, be creative and be innovative. Be bold.

    Iconic Green Dress

    Fast forward several decades, and Scarlett O’Hara’s authenticity still lives on today. Scarlett was a young woman who did whatever it took to survive as her world was literally burning down around her. Did she have her faults? Absolutely. Was she a product of her environment? Very much so. However, there are great life lessons we as women can learn from Scarlett O’Hara. In short, never give up.

    Scarlett O’Hara will always be legendary. Yes, we still have a great deal of work to do to create an equitable world, but Scarlett O’Hara will always be an icon of southern female strength for countless people, myself included.

    “After all, tomorrow is another day!”

    -Scarlett O’Hara,

  • Nutrition and Southern Hospitality Shine at Jo’s Cafe

    Nutrition and Southern Hospitality Shine at Jo’s Cafe

    Jo’s Cafe embodies the theme song from the iconic television show Cheers.

    You remember the tune “Where everybody knows your name, and they’re always glad you came.” Over the last year or so, my husband and I have found some of our favorite people, food, and “our table” at Jo’s Cafe.

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    Named after “Aunt Jo” (Jo Moore) of Tupelo. Inside the historic, cream colored home in the heart of Tupelo, this Cafe and its owners have found their way into the hearts, homes, and taste buds of locals and visitors alike. The restaurant offers catering, meal prep, and food truck options, in addition to traditional dining. There is something for everyone at Jo’s!

    Four years ago, Jennifer Brignac and her husband, Johnny Cook, started Jo’s Cafe, a food truck designed to travel to disaster sites and feed first responders and victims.

    In 2020, they opened a brick-and-mortar restaurant at Crosstown, but they’ve never forgotten their original mission.

    Jo’s Cafe is also a faith-based organization focused on providing disaster relief to those whose lives have been affected across the United States. Leveraging their expertise in cooking to serve meals for victims, volunteers, and first responders in national emergencies and disasters, they are committed to using our resources to meet the needs of others. Their team and staff are prepared to respond by providing compassion and offering hope and friendship in the form of hot meals.

    Recently, Johnny, Jennifer, and their crew spent Christmas Day in Kentucky. After watching TV news coverage of the deadly tornadoes, they knew what they had to do. They fed more than 500 people that holiday, helping the victims and clean-up crews of the violent Kentucky tornadoes that ravaged much of the state.

    “We saw aerial footage of the damage, and I told Johnny it was weighing heavy on my heart,” Brignac said. “And he agreed.”

    HOSPITALITY AT ITS FINEST

    In the Magnolia State, not only do we know the devastation that can occur from a tornado, but we also understand the importance of helping our neighbors. Tupelo locals rallied around Jo’s Cafe and donated items to Kentucky, such as gift cards, candy, and frozen turkeys. Loyal customers wanted to help their beloved Cafe and their owners, as this was a mission that Mississippians understand all too well.

    On Christmas Eve, along with fellow employee Kristin Buse, the couple piled into a pickup and drove Jo’s Cafe’s mobile food trailer 250 miles to Murray, Kentucky, where they spent the night with some missionaries from another local disaster response group, Eight Days of Hope.

    “This is a total God thing,” Brignac said. “We’re just using the resources He gave us.”

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    As New Orlean natives and Hurricane Katrina survivors, it is important to Johnny and Jennifer to help and serve others, with the motto “You cannot do everything, but you can refuse to do nothing.”

    “We were living on the Gulf Coast when Katrina came through, so it’s kind of our background,” Brignac said. “We’ve been on both sides of a disaster, first as victims and how as helpers.”

    MAKING LEMONS OUT OF LEMONADE
    Dietary restrictions, or not, Jo’s is a place where everyone can eat natural, whole foods, and eat them together! A dozen years or so ago, Jennifer discovered she was gluten intolerant. She took this challenge as an opportunity to learn how to cook gluten-free food.

    Are you gluten intolerant? Diabetic? On a keto diet? Or, do you simply enjoy fresh, whole foods? Jo’s Cafe has a FULL low carb, keto, no to low sugar menu that is always available. Plus, everything tastes amazing!

    It’s impossible to list all of my favorite menu items, so here are a few: Chicken Philly Waffle, Crack Chicken, Mexican Casserole, Bacon Cheese Biscuits, Jo’s Signature Ribeye over Greens, and Fat Boy fries. They also make their own keto coffee and loaded teas! There are several dessert options as well. Currently, Jo’s offers “Keto King Cake bites!” So you can “let the good times roll” and stay on your diet too! “Laissez les bons temps rouler”!

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    Jennifer and Johnny put their hearts and souls into Jo’s. This kind of care is shown not only through their number of returning customers but also through their relationships both inside and outside the Tupelo community.

    THE FIRST INGREDIENT IS LOVE

    Johnny loves to cook and wants everyone to get a plate of food fit for every friend and family member. Many ask Johnny what his special ingredients are. His answer is always the same, “I start with love!”

    COOKED FRESH TO ORDER
    Because Jo’s wants everyone to receive hot, freshly prepared to order food, they don’t typically use heat lamps. They don’t believe in pre-cooked food sitting under lamps before ordering. You order. They cook. Fresh, whole foods, and oh my…are they delicious!

    ONLY THE BEST
    Jo’s shops daily to get the freshest ingredients for their dishes. They don’t believe in pre-battered and/or pre-packaged ingredients.

    LIFTING WHERE THEY STAND
    Jo’s Cafe is not just a business trying to make a living. Jo’s Cafe is an organization that wants to make a difference. Not only do they provide healthy, delicious food for each customer, they also utilize their talents and cooking skills to help others in their time of need, although if you’re looking to keep yourself healthy products like Juice Buff can help a lot with this.

    CUSTOMERS ARE FAMILY
    The Cafe has allowed Jen, Johnny, and their talented staff to make invaluable connections. “Our patrons are no longer customers after their first visit; they are our friends. The support and encouragement we receive from them is priceless!”

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    If you’re in the Tupelo area, just drive down Gloster Street and look for the billboard sign that says “Jo’s Cafe, Located Over Yonder.” Once you find this local gem, you’ll never forget it! It is indeed a place “Where everybody knows your name, and they’re always glad you came.” A place where nutrition and hospitality are of the utmost importance and the southern tradition of gathering together around good food is maintained.

    Welcome to Jo’s Cafe, y’all! I promise you will not be disappointed!

  • Dolly Parton, Queen of Country Music and Good Deeds

    Dolly Parton, Queen of Country Music and Good Deeds

    Two words. One fabulous lady. Dolly Parton!

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    To know her is to love her.

    Although I don’t know her personally, I wish I did, and I’ve been a lifelong fan ever since I was old enough to bee-bop along to “9-5” in the back of my grandparent’s silver Lincoln.

    A genuine rag to riches story, Dolly embodies strength, determination, and joy which she bestows on us all, as it’s her personal mission statement

    “My dream was to make as many people happy as I could in this life.”

    Dolly is a superstar, yet she remains humble and grounded in the things that matter most: faith and family. The little country girl who made the world her stage is also a woman of great intention.

    The Early Life of Dolly Parton

    From the hills of Tennessee, singing barefoot on the front porch, to owning the stage in six-inch heels and jewels, Dolly Parton is a larger-than-life living legend with a heart that’s just as big as her dreams.

    Dolly grew up in Locust Ridge, a small mountain town nestled in the Great Smoky Mountains. She is the fourth of twelve children with a large extended family as well. Many of her loved ones played essential roles in her success, but she credits her Uncle Bill Owens for helping her launch her music career.

    Dolly’s talent launched her to super-stardom, as she wrote her first song at the age of five and played her first show at Nashville’s Grand Ole Opry at 13! Dolly took the stage at “The Cas Walker Farm and Home Hour” in Knoxville, Tenn., and landed a spot on “The Porter Wagoner Show.”

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    From Rags to Rhinestones

    Sometimes I think people look at Dolly and misjudge her because of her iconic image and style. The truth is, aside from her tremendous talent, many people vastly underestimate where Dolly came from and the amount of GOOD she does for people daily.

    Did you know that the Parton home didn’t have electricity or running water while Dolly grew up in the 1940s and ’50s? The winters, especially, were brutal. The country legend has shared what it was like living through the harsh mountainous winters as a little girl. Expressing that it was so cold that, most nights, the only bit of warmth she and her siblings would experience was when one of her younger siblings would wet the bed.

    Fast forward to 2021, and Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library sends books to children all over the country. She has multiple scholarships in place encouraging students to graduate high school. She most recently donated 1 million dollars to Vanderbilt University for COVID-19 vaccine research. And, I’m only scratching the surface of the many incredible “Dolly deeds.”

    Dolly Parton's Imagination Library

    Full of grit, dreams, and plans, Dolly, like the rest of us, is primarily made up of where she came from. Many of her songs tell the stories of her childhood, such as “Coat of Many Colors.”

    Dolly thought about becoming a preacher, like her Father, in addition to being a singer. In my opinion, Dolly is already a preacher of wisdom and love through her music. Her song “Little Sparrow” brings me to tears every time I hear it and is an unofficial hymn in my book.

    Dolly + Carl

    Dolly is happily married to her husband, Carl Dean, and has been for 55 years! She married the love of her life at 20 years old. A marriage of this caliber is impressive no matter what, but with the pressures of Hollywood, I think this is amazing.

    Although Dolly and Carl never had children of their own, Dolly considers her songs to be like her children, and you know what? Her songs will live on for generations to come and continue to touch lives, just like posterity does.

    Dolly, and her husband, Carl Dean.

    The Secret Song

    2045 seems like a long time away, doesn’t it? Well, it just so happens that this is the year that a “secret song” of Dolly’s will be released. She will be 100 years old and claims she will be long gone by then, but I wouldn’t be so sure about that!

    Reportedly, Dolly wrote this song 30 years in advance, can you imagine?

    So I wrote this song, and I can’t say what it is. It’s just burning me up inside that I have to leave it in there,” she wrote. “I put a CD player in the box, too. Because the song is on a CD, and there’s no telling what music is going to be by then. Hopefully, it will play, and the whole thing ain’t rotted.” ~Dolly Parton

    The box containing the secret song won’t be in just any old box. It’s inside of a chestnut wood box made by her beloved Uncle Bill. If anyone can live to 100, Dolly can, and she’ll look fabulous doing it, I’m sure of that! I don’t know about you, but I hope I’m around to hear this secret song, and I hope Dolly is too!

    Dolly at the 2021 Super Bowl

    Be a Dolly!

    If you follow Dolly on Instagram, she shares a positive message with followers nearly every day. There has been a Dolly comeback lately, although I know many of us have always loved her. Younger generations are learning about Dolly now too, and some of her older music is touching new hearts and souls.

    My favorite t-shirt of all time is light pink, with an outline of Dolly’s face and her big blonde hair.  The shirt says “Tease it to Jesus” and I love it!  I have all sons, and when they get older, this might embarrass them, but I don’t care. We all know “the higher the hair, the closer you are to heaven,” right? Not really, but it’s just another Dolly-ism to love!

    Dolly Parton is a musician, an actress, a philanthropist, a businesswoman, a wife, a daughter, and a sister. She’s not unlike you and me. She loves her family and cares about the well-being of others; she just does it with a little more glitz and glam. And, honestly, what’s wrong with that? Absolutely nothing. If you are going to be starting a career in the music industry then having the best gear at your studios is a must, Click here to see reviews of some of the best gear on the market today.

    In a world that often seems so negative, accentuate the positive. Be a Dolly!